2016 · baby shower · decorations · party

My sisters baby shower. {2016}

Good morning friends!
Many of you may know that my sister is due to have her first baby very soon! 
In celebration of that I helped throw her a baby shower over the weekend.
I thought I would share a few little photos, I love seeing party decor photos for inspiration for future events – so I thought some of you may like to see them as well!
For this shower Nikki wanted very simple, nothing over the top, nothing flashy, no balloons or typical party stuff. Just nice, natural, with a touch of woodland/Alaskan theme & some blue. 
I listened to what she wanted and tried to keep the decorations to a minimum. I strung up some simple bunting on a wall, on one window I hung a brown string and pegged up some white baby clothes from when LuLu was a newborn and my friend help me make a “Mum to be” chair sign so Nikki always had a seat to sit in and rest and I hope it made her feel special.

On the gift table we laid down some deer print burlap I’ve had in the cupboard for awhile, I put my standard bird cage for cards on there that I use for most parties & put 2 of my deer antlers around it with a few pinecones. Nikki has a special wooden bear from Alaska she also placed on the table. The candle burning is the baby powder one by Woodwick – it seemed appropriate. 

For my gift I wrapped each item individually and wrote little clues to what the gift was on the packaging. I had 2 Schleich animals to add in and used them as decoration on the gift. My friend made the moose a fun little party hat which my sister absolutely loved! 

Nikki didn’t want a baby shower cake at all, she is not a huge cake fan. But we compromised and I made her a strawberry & cream cake (one of the few cakes she will eat a small slice of). To make the cake a little festive I topped it with a homemade bunting sign with the nickname of her little baby “Yogi”.  

For games we played guess the amount of lollies in a baby bottle, guess the belly size and 2 trivia style games. One list of questions was nursery rhyme trivia and the other was about baby animals. Everyone seemed to enjoy themselves but some questions were a little tricky! I just put the question sheet together on pages on my mac. 
I also made up a prediction sheet for the guests to try and guess when Yogi will be born & his weight, name etc. We also put out a book for each guest to fill in a page with a special note of encouragement or advice for Nikki.

It was a lovely afternoon party! My sister seemed to really enjoy herself and liked all the decorations! 
We all cannot wait to meet baby Yogi, the count down is on!

2016 · easter

Easter Decorations & message. {2016}

Hello dear friends!
I thought I would post a very quick blog post and get in early to wish you all a very Happy Easter.

I pray that you take time during this holiday to remember why we celebrate Easter and that your Easter weekend is safe & an enjoyable one full of love, family, good food & of course a few chocolates! 
I thought in this blog post I would share a few photos from around our home of some of my Easter decorations.

I love this sweet tiny bunny resting in a tea cup! 
This dashing fellow is Sir Hops-A-lot
Some of the beautiful Easter Decorations in LuLu’s room. (the deers are always in her room) 
I know it is a lot of bunnies! I slowly add to my decoration collection each year when I find special little pieces.
Have a beautiful Easter!
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2016 · sponsored

The easy way to buy good wine {VinoMofo}

This post is bought to you by Nuffnang VinoMofo.
I really enjoy the occasional glass of good wine. I love sitting back at home with my husband watching a movie or just relaxing with him & enjoying a glass. But, to be honest I am not wine connoisseur – in fact I often struggle picking a good bottle. And once I find a type of wine I like, I kind of stick to it & get a bit nervous on trying new types, because there is nothing worse than buying a bottle of wine that tastes like something my cat produced. 
But I was recently introduced to a company that is on mission to make wine buying easy & affordable and always drinkable. 
Let me introduce you to Vinomofo, an online wine retailer. 
Vinomofo believes everyone should drink amazing wine & they make this easy by pretty much doing all the hard work for you. 
They do not sell anything they personally wouldn’t love to drink. They work very closely with some of the worlds best wine producers to source some amazing wine.
Each wine is put through a tasting panel before it is ordered and only certain amounts of each wine is ordered and they often sell out before the 3 days of sale is finished. 
Many of the deals on Vinomofo are limited until they sell out, Vinomofo also co-produce their own branded wine through the label Kinda Independent Wine Company. KIWC wines aren’t available anywhere else – only exclusively on Vinomofo but they are available all the time on the site. And these wines have some really artistic & fun labels – I am often a sucker for picking wine by the label, if it looks good surely it tastes good! But this method isn’t always a good way to pick your wine, but on Vinomofo you are safe! 
If you love wine, you’ll love Vinomofo! (Getting wine delivered to your door is the best thing!)
Also I think this would make gift buying very easy if you have friends & family who also enjoy good wine!
What is your favourite type of wine? I love a good sauvignon blanc! Vinomofo sent me a beautiful Riesling by KIWC to try & it was delicious, my old favourite Savvy B may have some competition now! 

And I assure you the wine I have had from Vinomofo is very drinkable and tastes like nothing my cat has produced! But in all seriousness, this wine was very nice & easy to drink. Like I said I am not a wine expert, so I am not going to describe the wine – but I really enjoyed it.


Cheers friends.

#motheringwithheartandjoy · 2016 · craft · diy · easter · toddler

4 Simple & fun Easter Crafts.

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Hello!
It is that time of year, the Easter bunny is so close to hopping by.
We have been reading Easter books, singing songs, talking about why we celebrate Easter and doing LOTS of crafts.
I have documented the 4 crafts we loved the most and thought we would share them with you all today!
The 4 of these are very simple and 3 of them use very basic everyday items you probably have in your house & LuLu had a really good time with them.
There were parts that I helped her with, but for most of it she did everything and picked all the embellishments!
Now for the tutorials…

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Easter stamps.
This one would have to be the most simple to create. These stamps turned out surprisingly very good, so cute in fact I got a bunch of plain cards and we made some quick and easy Easter cards for our loved ones!

You will need;

  • A paper towel roll or a few toilet rolls.
  • Scissors.
  • Tape or a stapler.
  • Paint.
  • Paper or cards.
  • Embellishments if you wish to add them to a card.
How to;
  1. For the egg shaped stamp pinch the top of a toilet roll, voila you have an egg shaped stamp.
  2. The bunny is a little more complex. You need to make 2 egg shaped stamps and attach them to a regular shaped roll. (So 2 ovals attached to a circle)
  3. You can attach them with a stapler or glue. I found sticky tape was quick & easy.
  4. Set out your paints & admire how easy this was and how cute your bunnies & eggs look!
  5. For our Easter cards we did 3 eggs on one side and 1 bunny on the other. We then added Easter egg sequins & little foam stickers. I think they look so sweet & lovely!
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Paper plate bunny.

This craft turned out very cute and LuLu had so much fun making it! She did pretty much everything, I helped a little bit with attaching embellishments, but she insisted on helping glue each item & also painting the mouth on.
You will need;
  • Paper plates.
  • I used a doily as an added touch of pretty – but it’s not needed, I just had spare.
  • Cotton wool balls.
  • Plain paper or card.
  • Glue.
  • Stapler.
  • Pipe cleaners.
  • Paint.
  • Googley eyes – these are also optional but LuLu is obsessed with these eyes lately so every craft project we do needs eyes. You could just paint eyes on.
  • Magnets if you wish to hang it on the fridge.
How to;
  1. Attach paper plates to each other (I stapled them) & if using a doily glue that on now.
  2. Make prints of your little loves feet & hands. You can do this however it is easiest for you. LuLu sat on a step for me and I painted 1 foot at a time & stamped them, then I used a wet wash cloth to wipe her foot clean (we did this inside) & then did the same on her hands. You could also do this outside, but the day we did this was super windy! While the paint is still wet you can sprinkle with glitter if you like.
  3. While the prints dry, glue cotton balls to the bunny. To do this I just spread glue over the area of the bunny that needed fluff and let LuLu attach the cotton wool balls how she wanted. (Turns out she is just like me and hates the feel of them! But she still loved this craft)
  4. Once all cotton balls are attached, carefully cut out the feet & hand prints.
  5. Attach them as shown in the picture. Hands for ears & feet for the bunnies feet.
  6. Add extra embellishments. Pipe cleaners for whiskers, draw on some eyes or add googley eyes, draw on a mouth and attach a bow.
  7. Admire your very cute & festive creation. This bunny would be lovely attached with a magnet on the back for Grandparents.
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Painted eggs.
Now this craft is the most simple out of all of them. You don’t need to make anything & it is easy! I decided this year to use styrofoam eggs instead of blowing eggs to dye. Using real eggs would be a bit tricky with a toddler. These eggs aren’t delicate so they can’t be broken & paint is a bit easier for a toddler to work with instead of food dye. Also, I can never find white eggs in Australia!
You will need;
  • Styrofoam eggs. I got mine from a cheap shop a few years ago.
  • Paint.
  • Paint brushes.
How to;
  1. Paint the eggs. LuLu had a lot of fun experimenting with how to paint the eggs.
  2. Let dry, they dry fairly quickly.
  3. Display & admire!
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Toilet roll bunnies. 
These bunnies turned out very sweet & they make me smile. They were simple to make & LuLu thought the bunnies were so great. Once again these guys needed googley eyes but drawing them on would work fine.
You will need;
  • Paper towel or toilet rolls – cardboard tubes.
  • Scissors.
  • Stapler & sticky tape.
  • Paint.
  • A marker.
  • A cotton wool ball.
  • Any embellishments you wish to use. (Glitter & googley eyes are not needed, but in LuLu’s opinion are a must have in any craft project!)
How to;
  1. Cut 2 small sections from the cardboard tube – these will be “the ears”
  2. Pinch the circles to make ovals.
  3. Attach the ears to a longer bit of the cardboard tube “the body”.
  4. Paint & decorate how you wish.
  5. If you wish to add glitter, do so while the paint is wet. The easiest way I found for us to do this was to hold the tube with my fingers inside & just roll it as LuLu sprinkled the glitter on.
  6. Add features such as eyes, whiskers, nose & mouth.
  7. Attach cotton wool ball tail on.
  8. You now have one very sweet bunny made from something that was probably going to the recycling bin!

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I hope you found these little craft projects inspiring & that you do one or all of them with your little bunnies!

These crafts just weren’t fun & wasting time, as we craft I try to encourage LuLu to learn new things. Colours, shapes, how things work, about bunny rabbits etc.
Everything is a learning experience for kids. Craft time is can be extremely beneficial to your child’s brain development.
Some of the benefits of doing crafts include, but aren’t limited to…

  • Bilateral Co-ordination; Can be strengthened with crafts. 
  • Creative skills; Feeling different textures, improving her painting skills & expressing herself with what she likes. 
  • Cognitive thinking; Understanding cause & effect (mixing colours,) & visual processing. 
  • Motor skills; painting, sprinkling glitter, controlling tricky objects to paint (cardboard tubes & eggs roll around unlike a flat piece of paper) & helping attach small embellishments.  
  • Thinking skills; Considering options & making decisions. 
  • Problem Solving; Working out ways to stop the egg from rolling & how to paint a round object.
  • Listening skills; Following instructions. 
  • Science; That glue is sticky when wet but isn’t when it is dry, round things roll & paint is wet but when we wait & have patience it will dry.  
Doing craft is so much more than just passing the time and making things that look cute. It is amazing the things young children pick up & learn!
It is also a great time to spend with our children, bonding, talking, working out what colours they like and teaching them things.
I encourage you to take a day, an afternoon or just a few hours before Easter or over the Easter long weekend and make some crafts with your child. They don’t have to look perfect, your child will not care – the crafts above aren’t perfect, but we are proud of them & think they look wonderful. We had so much fun making them and LuLu just loves craft time and I can bet your child will love making them too with you.
I look forward to seeing your creations on social media!
2016 · friends with heart & joy · world changers

How to change a life. {Friends with heart & joy}

Hello friends,
The post I bring you today is slightly different to what I usually write about – but it is hugely important and I urge you to read on. 
Today I am writing about someone I know, my good friend from high school Ashleigh, she is a world changer… 
Ashleigh is set to embark on amazing volunteer trip this year to Baby Watoto in Uganda. To get there she needs help – our help. 
I know the women (people) that read this blog our good, giving & kind with big & beautiful hearts, so that is why I am writing this. If you can help – please do so. 
If you can’t financially help, please read this post, share it, talk about it – spread the message.
The work Ashleigh plans to do is life changing for the children she will be working with, please help her.
I know Ashleigh from my time in Blackwater, we were next door neighbours when I first moved to town & we did grade 11 & 12 together. She was my friend in school & is someone I still call a friend. 
So you all can get to know my dear friend a little better, I sent her some questions…

Ashleigh, please introduce yourself to my readers.
Good morning Bindy, and readers! Firstly I would like to thank you for sharing my story with your readers. I hope that it sparks a little wonder and hope in you all.  
I am a country (mining) town girl at heart! 
I was born in Dysart, and spent the majority of my childhood and teenage years in Blackwater, QLD.   
I was blessed to experience a carefree childhood, where the hardest decisions were what we were going to do after school that day, and whose parents would let us all spend the night. 
After graduation I moved to Rockhampton for 7 years to complete a Bachelor Degree of Psychology.  It was over these 7 years and through many challenging experiences that I challenged, critiqued, and altered every aspect of myself and became really serious about the way in which I wanted to live my life. 
This ultimately placed me on my path as a youth worker; working in indigenous communities in Western Queensland and was the drive I needed to explore my passion of volunteering abroad.  
I am currently living in the beautiful sunshine coast, continuing my work as a youth worker while also studying to become a personal trainer.  My hope is to incorporate my knowledge of both physical fitness and mental health to create a holistic self-development program for young teens who are in care of the state and teens at risk of disengaging from school.

What do you do?
I love this question as it gives me the opportunity to express how liberating it is to see ‘what it is you do’, as a journey that you have control of! Not a system that has control of you!
After university I was eager to start work however at the time it was difficult to get your foot through the door as a youth worker with no experience.  So I travelled to Mount Isa and worked with indigenous youth in a residential facility for 3 months.  I have since worked as a youth worker in many different locations, and positions.  I worked really hard to ‘climb the ladder’ when I first started out as an eager 20 year old and worked my way into management fairly quickly.  With the guidance of some very special friends and family, I realised that life was too short to be lived so seriously. 
So, to feed my hunger for adventure and my passion to give back, I began volunteering with disadvantaged children in third world countries.  
Upon my return, I realised I was going to make ‘work’, work for me! Just the thought of working Monday to Friday, 9-5pm, is suffocating and only in the last year of my working life have I pushed myself to step outside the ‘society’s expectations’ box and start my own nannying business. So to answer your question (finally ), I am currently nannying a stunningly beautiful little boy every Monday and Tuesday, from Wednesday – Friday I am studying to become a Personal Trainer; which means I am either studying, or completing work experience hours at Goodlife Gym! And the following week, I fly to Rockhampton (FIFO) Thursday – Sunday and work as a residential youth worker. 
My work life is hectic, yes, but at this stage of my life I wouldn’t want it any other way.

What is your favorite thing to do in your free time? 
As above, lol.
I have so many things I love to do in my free time!! 
My belief is that we only live once, so, if it sparks my interest I will make a mental note that I need to try it at least once! 
My main love is nature, so I just love to go on little hiking adventures! There is just something about running through bushland and forestry that makes me feel free. 
I am blessed to have an amazing man in my life whom is also a nature baby. His love is the ocean! So I enjoy getting out to surf with him (when its not too cold).  I can’t explain how amazing it was when we were surfing one morning and a pod of dolphins swam past only 20 metres away from us! WOW.
Last year I started piano lessons, as it was my childhood dream to play the piano! I have had to give it up for now due to my commitments, and I’m sure when my schedules permits I will continue on with this.  I love to draw, read, write, build furniture, bake, and travel! The list could go on but I will stop it there.  

Where did the passion to help others come from?
I’m not too sure where it came from, I guess I was just born this way (Lady Gaga is playing in my head now haha).  
On a serious note however, as far back as I can remember I have always had an unexplainable passion for two things! The first being children, and the second being helping people that don’t have the capacity to help themselves.  Whether this is due to where they were born, the systems they are bound by or the disability or mental health disorder they were born with.  Whether that ‘help’ is achieved by advocating for children of the state, door knocking for the Red Shield Appeal, participating in a 40 hour famine, volunteering overseas, or simply asking ‘Are you ok?’, we all deserve not only our basic human rights such as shelter, food, and water, but also respect, kindness, and love!

I know you have volunteered overseas before, could you tell my readers about your past trips and the highlights from them?
When I was in year 12 I had a truly amazing teacher, Emily Taske, who organized a 3-week overseas trip to Germany, and Italy.  You know those 2 or 3 people in your life who make the BIG impact; well Emily is one of those people! This trip took ‘people watching’ to a totally new level and sparked my curiosity in people and culture. Emily has always encourage me to chase this passion with reckless abandon, or as I like to think of it; wild intemperance

In 2013, I volunteered in an orphanage in Suarez (Argentina). Over 4 weeks, my friends and family were able to help me raise $1500 AUS. This money went such a long way! We were able to provide the orphanage with developmental toys for the nursery, basic arts and craft supplies, educational tools, and lots of sporting equipment for the very bare outside area. 
I fell in love with this orphanage, the mothers who volunteered their time to run it, day in and day out, unpaid! And the children who had practically nothing but the clothes on their backs were the happiest children I had ever met.  After four weeks, I called my boss back home and the volunteer coordinator to see about extending my stay, however this was just not possible and I returned home with a promise to myself that I would continue to volunteer.   

The few toys you can see scattered on the floor is all these children had.
All the wonderful items Ashleigh purchased with the money she raised during her first overseas volunteering trip. What a blessing she was to those children! 
Ashleigh and the children from the orphanage in Suarez.
In 2014, after much research, I was led to volunteer as an English teacher at Anlong-Pi free school, Siem Reap, Cambodia. This school was located at a dumpsite; where the children and their families lived to collect and trade recycled trash to survive. Upon arriving at Anlong-Pi free school I asked about the structure that appeared half built and asked what it was supposed to be. I was informed that it was intended to be a fourth classroom; to be set up as a home economics building to teach the young girls, and women of the community to sew.
Again, over six weeks, my friends, and family rallied together to answer my call and we raised just enough money to purchase sheets of tin, nails, and chicken wire to complete the building: desks, chairs, a cabinet, and FOUR sewing machines to furnish the classroom, and some tins of paint with which the children enjoyed adding their personal touch. It was a beautiful sight to see that classroom finished, furnished, and full of smiling faces on my last day at Anlong-Pi, and that happiness is thanks to the kindness and generosity of everyone who donated.

A sweet girl that Ashleigh looked forward to teaching everyday. Her name is ‘Sun’ and was always happy & smiling. 
Working on the new building. 

The finished building. 
Ashleigh with 2 of the school sponsors, they came to visit to check out the work she had done!
Have you done any local volunteering? 
All of my volunteer trips have been overseas, however I have worked as a youth worker in Mount Isa, which was a massive eye opener.  You would not believe how poorly some communities are living in our own backyard! 

How does your family feel about you going overseas to volunteer? 
I laughed out loud when I read this question!!! I have the most beautiful family, whom are very patient with me, and my endeavours most of the time.
I have a very protective father who struggles with the thought of me crossing a busy road let alone getting on a plane to work in a third world country that’s in conflict, so we don’t see eye to eye all the time. However, in saying that I do believe in my heart of hearts that he is proud of me.
My mother is an angel, she has been my best friend since I can remember and has ALWAYS encouraged me to follow my dreams, no matter how wild they are!  I’m sure it worries her sick, and there have been a few big scares during my volunteer trips that she has just taken on the chin like a champ (and not told my father until I was home safe).  

I am so inspired by Ashleigh for her love of helping people. During this season of my life I can’t see myself going on a mission/volunteer trip anytime soon – though it is something I have looked into and do hope to do one day. But for now I will do everything I can to help my friend. Anyone that knows Ashleigh knows she is selfless, kind, super positive & just a beautiful soul. In high school she was such a down to earth, honest, helpful, friendly & caring person. She was the type of girl who wasn’t afraid of having a go at anything and didn’t judge people. To me she is brave, inspiring and has the most genuine & considerate heart. It doesn’t surprise me at all that she volunteering to go to Baby Watoto. This suits her perfectly! She is so full of heart & joy. – B.

In your own words, what does Baby Watoto do?
Baby Watoto is an orphanage like no other! The Watoto model has been designed to meet not only the physical needs of the children but the health care, education, social and spiritual development needs of the children. 
Baby Watoto cares for destitute babies between the ages of 0-2 years before they either graduate to a Watoto children’s village or are reunited with existing relatives.  This is very exciting as Baby Watoto is ensuring that the development of the children is at the core of its practice, not just getting by! 

What are your personal goals for your time over there?
The beauty of the projects I have accomplished on my volunteer trips is that I don’t plan them! My fundraising ideas usually come to me once I have arrived and am able to see what they need. My personal goal is to be present in the moment, and to bring joy to as many of the Watoto children as I can. It is also my personal goal to make, and collect as many baby clothes as I can to take over with me.  

What makes this organisation different to others such as Unicef, World Vision etc? 
There are so many volunteer organisations out there that it can be difficult to choose whom to go with!  Some volunteer organisations are more ‘touristy’, meaning its about volunteering for a couple of days here and there, and mixing it up with touristy adventures like safari’s, white water rafting, hang gliding, etc.  
I have volunteered unknowingly with organisations like this, however, it is my personal preference to work with organisations that are dedicated to making real change.  It is pretty easy to see what category each organisation fits into, you just need to make sure you do your research. 
 I urge you to visit and check out www.watoto.com if you are interested in volunteering abroad!

What would an average day be like for you over there, what will you be doing day to day?
My job will be what you would expect of a day care assistant! I will be meeting the basic daily needs of the baby’s at Baby Watoto, and helping the Room Leaders wherever I can, whether that be by cleaning, preparing food, washing linen, dishes, preparing for play time, assisting in putting hats, sunscreen, shoes on the bubs etc. (I’m getting excited just thinking about it ).  
I will work for 8-10 hours a day and sleep at the Baby Watoto accommodation with other volunteers.
Thank you Ashleigh for being you – for volunteering to go to Baby Watoto and helping those innocent & sweet children. You are an inspiration to us all and I hope we can help you! We will be keeping you in our hearts and prayers, we are so proud of you! 
If you want to help my amazing friend please click HERE. 
Any donation, big or small will help and I know she will be grateful for any amount. 
Lent is the perfect time to be giving to others, so I urge you to please go to Ashleigh’s fundraising page and give what you can. 
I would not bring you this if it wasn’t important to me, if it wasn’t being done by a good, honest & amazing woman that I know is truly passionate about changing the world.
Please leave any encouraging messages for Ashleigh below or on any of my social media.
Snap Chat; Bindy_30 
I am doing up a bundle of baby goods to be sent to her for her to take & deliver to Baby Watoto & I would love to print off some encouraging messages to include in the parcel. 
(If you would like to help in donating some new or very gently used baby goods please contact me on email or on any of my social media)
Please friends, be generous – this blog is free for all that read it, there is no subscription fee. If you have ever taken away a piece of advice, laughed or read this blog for your entertainment, please make a donation. 
Donate what you would pay for a coffee, a magazine or a chocolate. Give something.  Even just $2 will help.
Give what you can, even if it is just an encouraging message to Ashleigh. Know what you give is appreciated and YOU are making a difference!
Spread the word. Email it, Facebook it, Tweet it, Instagram it, talk about it.
Once Ashleigh has returned from her trip she has promised to do a follow up post with me & share some photos from her trip! 
Thank you for your support, your love & for joining me in helping Ashleigh. 
You are joining her on changing the world! 

Important links; 

Ashleigh & I at school (grade 12), at our formal & formal after party.
#motheringwithheartandjoy · 2016 · housewife to huntress

The Weekend that was; Getting Outdoors.

There is no wi-fi in the outdoors, but I assure you – you will find a better connection. – MWL31

Hello friends!
How was your weekend? 
We spent a lot of our time outdoors over the weekend – we have had a fairly long weekend as Trent has been on his 5 days off.
We have spent lots of time out in the backyard and also in our pool, soaking up the hot weather while it lasts!  
Sunday afternoon we headed to our favourite local park and enjoyed some family time. 
It is really so relaxing just going to a quiet little park and just spending time together. If you are ever bored on a weekend I highly suggest grabbing the hats, sunscreen, some cold water bottles & maybe a few snacks and jumping in the car and finding a lovely little park to play at for a few hours. Spending time as a family is so wonderful & the weather is so lovely at the moment, it is nice & sunny but the weather is starting to cool down to a comfortable temperature – perfect for being outside!

Also over the weekend my Dad & I went for a hunt. I was awake at 2:45am and we arrived at the private property we hunt on at 5am – the perfect time to start hunting. Early morning before the sunrises is my favourite time of day, everything is so still, the air is cool and it’s just so calming but at the same time reenergising. 

We walked through the bush for about 6 hours, we hiked almost 10km in some pretty challenging terrain- big gullies, thick scrub, thick long grass and some big hills. We didn’t see any deer – though we did see evidence of them with some impressive rub marks on a few trees. 

It was a wonderful morning spent together. It is a day I won’t ever forget, it was actually the first time Dad has ever taken me out hunting.
I don’t think Dad took the easy trail through the property at all, if anything he probably went a challenging way to put me through my paces so I could prove I wanted to be out there. But not 1 word of complaint was said from me, even though my feet ached towards the end and my shirt was that saturated with sweat it felt as though I had just jumped in the creek. I just was so happy to be out there, going for a walk through the bush is just fun for me – I love being out there. And it was a great morning to spend some time with my Dad. 

Trent, my Dad & I are looking forward to hopefully planning another hunt soon to try and get out during the rut. We need to restock our venison.

The property that we hunt on is so beautiful & picturesque. 
The moon has also been amazing over the past 2 nights, this is a quick photo I snapped last night. 

I hope you all had a lovely weekend and got to spend some of it outdoors & appreciate this lovely weather! 
If you did, I would love to see your photos or hear your stories, contact me on my social media or leave a comment below!
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nothing beats being outdoors, I hope you got a chance to get outside this weekend.(This magnificent view is from one point during our hunt!)
Posted by Modern Wife Life 31 on Saturday, February 20, 2016 The only deer we saw all day… But we did see some decent rub marks on the trees.  which is very exciting for when we head out during the rut. 

#motheringwithheartandjoy · 2016 · motherhood

It is NEVER OK to call your toddler an ASSHOLE.

Ok Mumma’s,
Let us chat – again…
I have written 2 blog posts recently – you either loved them and agreed or felt like I was being judgemental and nasty. You can read them HERE & HERE.
My intention wasn’t too offend in those posts. I actually reworded both of those countless times because I was worried I was coming across “too harsh”. But for this post my thoughts are a little different, let the truth be harsh. If Mothers are good enough to speak harshly about their little children, I will speak harshly in their defence.
I am sick to death, like I cannot roll my eyes anymore they are that tired – at the trash that mothers post online, the complaining is just constant & I just over look it, but it’s the name calling & humiliating that fires me up.
So the main topic I have to talk about again – is how we speak about our small children online.
STOP CALLING YOUR SMALL CHILDREN ASSHOLES!
If you are a parent and call your small child any cruel name, off or online – trust me, they are not the asshole. You are, yes you read that right – YOU ARE.

it is never ok to call your toddler an asshole

Last night before I went to bed a friend showed me the latest “funny viral photo” that is making it’s rounds in the “Mummy Community” – I refuse to show this photo because a) it broke my heart & made me feel sick & b) I refuse to further humiliate that poor child. The photo is of a small child, I would think is under 2 (I am hopeless at guessing ages) but the little child was asleep with a baby bottle of milk laying beside him. Over the top of him one of his parents/carers had written “I’m an asshole today” in little wooden play blocks.
That to me is heartbreaking and wrong. Someone went out of there way to write that over an innocent sleeping baby – and yes children are innocent contrary to popular opinion that they are these evil little assholes sent to earth to mess up our lives.
I wish to write an open letter to this parent/Mother/father/carer – whoever did this and any other Mother/parent that willingly humiliates and name calls her kids…
I feel I have to write this, this is a very sad, ugly & concerning trend that is prevalent in the online Mummy community and someone has to stand up and say that it isn’t ok. I maybe on my own in thinking that this trend is sad & wrong, but perhaps you agree – if you do – please share this post. Don’t go along with this trend, be courageous and stand up & say that this is NOT ok!
I have a lot to say & you may not like it if you are someone who does this, but it may also change your mind.

To the parents who name call their children,
Your toddler is not an asshole – nope, not all. But you however are, if you think that it is ok to name call your child. Because lets look at this, you are name calling & ridiculing a small child online for what reason?
I would actually love, LOVE to know why you think your child is an asshole and read your reasoning behind calling them such a hurtful term online. And it concerns me that all these parents proudly & openly call their kids assholes online – even if it’s meant to be light hearted, what are they calling their kids in real life?
Because yes I do doubt your respect for your child & your parenting ability if you are proudly calling your little child a hurtful name online. You made this baby, you gave birth & now it is your responsibility to raise that child to the best of your ability. Stop name calling someone you created, it is sick! People out there are longing to parent a child and would never dream of calling them an asshole – but here you are boasting about it. Making your children into “internet sensations”.
Because they were “naughty” today – was your toddler in fact behaving like a toddler? Shock horror! Kids will be kids, kids will be challenging, but your kid is not purposely trying to mess up your day. Do you expect them to behave in a way that is beyond their age? A 3 year old will behave like a 3 year old. Perhaps they were disruptive to something you wanted to be doing? Were you more focused on your phone? The TV? Were they longing for your attention? Because that’s what kids want, your time & attention. If you give your child what they need, you may notice an attitude change. Pay attention to your child – love them, they are the most important thing in your life – well, they should be.
And I am sorry to say it, but if your kid is an asshole – take a good hard look around. Children are products of their environments, if you think your toddler is an asshole – guess who made him that way. YOU, how we behave impacts our children. If you want your kid to be better, be so yourself. Step up and Mother with joy & heart – because I am willing to bet you actually don’t. If you did, calling your baby an asshole online wouldn’t even be an option to you.
Start being with your child more, engage with them, be a role model, get down and play with your child – put time & effort, joy & heart into your Mothering.
At the end of the day you are the parent – you are the adult. We have a choice on how we behave. Kids will be kids, they will be fun, challenging, lovely, at times naughty, they will push limits and they have the ability to frustrate us and also make us be filled with pride & joy. They are learning how to handle emotions & how to act & behave. How we react to their behaviour is crucial. If we lash out in a ridiculous style time & time again, that is how they will learn to deal with conflict & hard times. Everyone loses their cool at some point, it is human nature – but being mindful to how we react is so important. They are children, they are learning – we should know better and respond better. If we want our children to respect us & grow up to be good & kind people, we have to teach them how to be respectful and good & that starts by first being a role model for them. They do as we do. Be the type of person who you want your child to be.
Name calling our children sets the standard for them, if you name call your child or your husband in front of your children – do not be surprised when your child is in trouble at school for name calling & bullying other kids. Kids act how their parents act. So if you want your child to stop being an asshole, start being a better parent. It is that easy. Putting your heart & joy into Mothering won’t give you a perfect child, no child is, just as no parent is perfect – but when you parent with heart & joy, you are changing things within yourself. You are changing how you respond, you are striving to be better, you are being more positive and our attitude and behaviour is picked up and copied by our children. Having a positive & joyful mindset & outlook influences the tone in our home and the tone in our home is felt by the entire household and influences everyones behaviour.
Do you see my point? Do you see why I believe this trend is so damaging and wrong? It isn’t right. Your child is a child, there will be days when they challenge you, there will be bad days where it all goes wrong, days you feel like you may lose your mind at the monotony of parenthood, moments when you feel like you are failing – but if you push on and don’t let the hard moments get you down & make you bitter, you won’t fail. The challenging times are easily outweighed by all the positive and joy filled times.
You may find the tone in this post a bit judgemental, I admit I am fairly judgemental to any parent that name calls or humiliates their child. If you were standing in a store and someone screamed at their toddler they were an asshole – what would your thoughts be? Would you judge? Would you think that borders on child abuse? I surely do. I find this trend appalling.
Now about this block incident, if the parent who did this by some weird chance reads this – what the hell is wrong with you? Really? I would LOVE to know what went through your head while you set this up and took the photo and posted it online. If your baby, yes that child to me is still a baby – was that challenging today, welcome to parenthood – it can be challenging – babies are babies and kids are kids. But by the looks of that photo he was napping, instead of writing a disgusting message over the top of him to humiliate him – go have a moment to yourself, have a cold drink, wash your face, lay down beside him & appreciate that beautiful baby you have, sit outside and breath fresh air – do something to regain your sanity but do not do what you did. That’s so wrong & past the point of messed up – what happened in that photo is not ok. And the sick part is that it went “viral” because people – MOTHERS actually, liked, shared & commented joking and agreeing that their children were also assholes – their toddlers were assholes… Mothers are the ones making this behaviour acceptable and it has to stop. And there were a few people who did seem to have morals & respect for kids who voiced that this was wrong and they were attacked by other parents who accused them of not having a sense of humour or that “if you think your child isn’t an asshole you are lying”.
No and no! It is not funny, not one part of that is humorous and sorry, my daughter never has been and never will be an asshole. She is a toddler, toddlers can be a handful – kids at any stage are – it isn’t rocket science – it is parenting. But I have no desire to name call, abuse, bully or humiliate my child – even if it is “just online”. Because I  appreciate & respect my daughter.
If your coping style for parenting is to humiliate your child when you have had a rough day I encourage you to rethink your strategy – there are better ways. We don’t need to bully our children, and yes that is what this is – bullying. If someone else name called your child, what would you think? Would you be horrified and mad? Well, why do you do it? When your child starts school, if someone else called them a name or made a photo of them with a cruel name written on it would you be angry? I most certainly would. Do not behave in a way that you would be unhappy with someone else doing. Just because it is “your kid” doesn’t mean you have free range to humiliate and bully them.
If you want try and different approach to parenting I urge you to explore my blog site.
On this site you will find posts that are encouraging – encouraging Mums to enjoy motherhood, to be joyful parents and to actually respect our husbands & kids. You will not read a post from me humiliating the people close to me, complaining about motherhood or just being negative.
Our attitude and thoughts control our whole entire lives, that is part of the reason I have no desire to complain about Mothering – Mothering is a wonderful & fleeting season of our lives. They are only small for so long, they will only need us for a short while – don’t waste these precious years and don’t make yourself cringe when you look back on yourself as a Mother of young children. 
Name calling our children makes nothing better.
To the parents – the Mothers, who think it is ok to call your children assholes – it isn’t. Please stop. It isn’t funny, raw or honest. It’s sad, bordering on abuse and just disgusting – you are pretty much bullying someone who assumes that you love them. Your small child, the person you created, is not an asshole, they aren’t. But by writing they are, kind of makes you look like you are.
Think about the words written here, if they make you mad is it because they are hitting a nerve?
We created our children, we are beyond blessed to have them, they are not assholes.
I encourage you to change the way you speak about & to your children, let the words you say (type) be positive. Say you’ve had a hard day, say your child is a handful but there is never a need to swear, humiliate and name call. Never.
Be intentional with your words, have your mind geared to seek the positive, realise how fortunate you are to have your child/ren & Mother with heart & joy.
#MotheringwithHeartandJoy
If you wish to read my 2 previous posts on similar topics & to learn why I feel so passionately about #MotheringwithHeartandJoy please click HERE & HERE.
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2016 · Lent · religion

Lent 2016 – it is almost EASTER! {Sunday Series}

“Lent is a journey that moves us toward the cross.”

Hello dear friends, 
I had every intention to post this last Sunday, but I never got a chance to sit down and write it & lucky me I have been battling a bit of writers block… So, this afternoon I forced myself to sit down and write! 
So here is a bit of a Sunday Series on a Wednesday and I know it’s been awhile between Sunday Series – sorry. 
It is February 17th – we are over half way through the 2nd month of 2016 – what? Summer is almost gone (not complaining about that!) and Easter is almost here. 
Yes you read right, Easter is NEXT MONTH! Sunday the 27th of March is Easter, like we are already in Lent! 
Speaking of Lent, have you given up anything or added anything to your life?
This year…

  • I have given up something that normally I couldn’t go a day or so without at least 1 can of – coke. Yes, I love coca-cola – I know it’s awful & bad for me – which is why I am giving it up. It’s an indulgence I don’t need. And I went straight up cold turkey, no gradual weaning – I just gave it up. 
  • I am also adding more stillness to my life. More moments to soak life in and more time for me to sit and read. I am reading more instead of watching YouTube videos – normally when I go to bed I will spend 1/2 hour – 1 hour catching up on YouTube, but I am dedicating some or most of that time to reading now. 
  • I am also working my way through our possessions to make a large donation pile to donate to a local winter clothing/blanket drive this year. (If you are local to the Toowoomba area and can recommend a charity or church that does a winter appeal, please let me know!)

In my mind I have ticked the 3 main boxes of Lent. Prayer, fasting & almsgiving. Now I don’t mean that you have to use Lent as a check list & you have to do these things – to me, religion and everything that goes along with it is personal and open to your own interpretation. As long as what you are adding or subtracting to your life is a positive, I think it’s great. To me giving up something I really liked is a form of fasting (it is also a win-win because it will make me healthier), setting aside more time for stillness and just quiet also opens me up to more prayer time and bundling up some gently used coats and blankets we no longer need will help someone in need. 
These 3 main things are important to me; my health, simple/slow living where I can enjoy life & have times of stillness and also, helping others. 
Have you given up something? I would love to know! 
I leave you with a few sneak peek pictures of my Easter decor, I’ll be setting it more over the next week and if you like I can share the photos of it completed in an upcoming post.

If you want to share any of your easter decor pictures or what you have given up for Lent, connect with me on social media or leave a comment below!
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Some pretty pieces I picked up today from Bed Bath N Table Isn’t the tiny bunny in a teacup just so darn sweet!!! …
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#motheringwithheartandjoy · 2016 · activities · decorations · diy · LuLu · motherhood · recipe · toddler · valentine's day

Making hearts with my sweetheart. {Easy D.I.Y Clay Ornaments}

Valentine’s Day is this Sunday…
So this upcoming sweet holiday has been the perfect excuse to do some crafting with my tiny sweetheart! 
This past week we made some little clay ornaments…
She is at the age now where she is very interested in helping out in the kitchen so she really enjoyed helping make them, rolling them out & cutting out the shapes.
They do take a little time to make, but LuLu had a very fun time making them and painting them with her best little friend.
The dough is very soft to work with and not grainy, it dries well and is a beautiful white colour. 


“Not salt dough, clay ornaments” –
Ingredients;

  • 1/2 cup cornflour (corn starch)
  • 1 cup bi-carb soda (baking soda)
  • 3/4 cup of water.
  • A few drops of lavender (or any essential oil you like) *optional.
  • Food colouring *optional. (if you wish to add colouring, mix with water first then add)
Useful items;
  • Small/medium sized sauce pan.
  • Spatula/wooden spoon.
  • Measuring  cups.
  • Bowl.
  • Wet chux/cloth.
  • Rolling pin.
  • Cookie cutters.
  • Straw.
  • Paint/glitter/embellishments/clear varnish or clear drying glue.
Making the clay;
  1. In a small-medium sized pot add all ingredients. 
  2. Stir over medium heat, it will be very liquidy for a few minutes. 
  3. Then suddenly you will notice the texture start to thicken, keep stirring. 
  4. When it looks like very smooth dough take it off the heat. 

  5. Place the clay dough in a bowl and cover with a damp cool cloth to cool down. (About 1/2 an hour) 

  6. When cool, dust cornflour over a smooth surface and knead the dough.
  7. Start rolling it out flat – you don’t want it to be too thin because that will cause it to crack. Try to not over roll it too many times as that can also cause cracking. (about 1/2 a centimetre thick is good) If you find the clay is starting to dry out or crack a tiny bit as you are rolling it, wet your hands lightly and roll the clay back into a ball. 

  8. Cut out your shapes. You can use cookie cutters for this or stamps (trim around the edges once you’ve made the imprint with a stamp) and you can even make hand prints.
  9. If you plan to hang your ornaments, make a hole in the top with a straw. 
  10. To harden you can either let air dry over night or for a day or pop them in the oven at 80degrees Celsius (175 Fahrenheit)  for an hour, turning them over 1/2 way. *Mine could’ve had a bit longer in the oven, so you could extend the cooking time for an extra half hour or so – but check them regularly, they did finish drying over night. 

  11. Once baked/air dried – decorate however you wish. We used paints & glitter and sealed them with a clear varnish.

This craft was lots of fun for both of us. I also made a few little gift tags to use on gifts. The clay was super easy to make, with the addition of lavender it also smelt nice and the bright white of the clay was very pretty – so if you didn’t want to paint it – you don’t need to. If you didn’t want to involve your child in the making of the dough (because kids in the kitchen can be a bit of a handful sometimes) you could easily whip this up while they were asleep at night and then they are all ready to paint and decorate the next day! This was the perfect activity for a play date, both girls seemed to really enjoy painting the ornaments. 
These love hearts will make very sweet little Valentine gifts for our loved ones! 
I really love doing activities like this with LuLu, it may just seem like a craft or play – but she is learning so much through play.
She was learning;
Maths; Measuring and shapes. (She now tells me every time she see’s a heart)
Science; She saw the mixture change form. From dry ingredients, to liquid and then to a clay. And then from a soft clay to a hard ornament. She also learnt that the clay was hot, but we had to wait for it cool down.
Motor skills; Scooping and tipping ingredients, mixing, kneading, rolling, squeezing the clay, cutting, painting, sprinkling glitter, helping thread the twine and hanging the ornaments.
Literacy; Following instructions and older kids would also be learning to read a recipe.
She also learnt patience while the clay was being cooked on the stove & while it was cooling.
So please always remember every single thing we do with our children is a learning experience. They are little sponges and take it all in, they love to learn. You don’t have to sit down and do actual lessons – play based learning is so wonderful for little kids. 
So I encourage you to try this craft, I would love to see your beautiful ornaments.
Make sure you hashtag #MotheringwithHeartandJoy or share it to one of my social media accounts!

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I hope you have a lovely Valentine’s Day with your loved ones. 


To read my previous 2 posts that have been very popular click HERE and HERE.

On the blog today; making hearts with my sweetheart! ❤️❤️This clay ornament recipe is very easy and is handy to…
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#motheringwithheartandjoy · 2016 · motherhood

#MotheringWithHeartandJoy To the online Mummy community again…

If you haven’t read my post “To the online Mummy community” click HERE to have a look…

to the online mummy community again
Following on from last weeks “controversial” post I thought I would share some insight for you, insight on why I’m so passionate about mothering with joy…
Because that is why I wrote last weeks post, because all those thoughts were on my heart & I am so passionate about showing women that it is ok to enjoy mothering & being a wife and having a joyful heart & attitude can be such a blessing for our families.
So lets chat – again.
I’ve been through hard times – even though in the last week someone did accuse me of never dealing with anything difficult in parenting or in my life. I had to laugh at that.
I have had times that are tough and guess what – sitting around feeling sorry for myself because I was so “hard done by” & writing constantly all about how hard I had it didn’t help one bit. Once you pull yourself together and take control – mentally and physically of your life, things get better. I assure you they do.
Our minds are incredibly powerful and we have the ability to control how we feel in life. You either choose to be positive or negative, to mother with joy & heart or bitterness and negativity. And if you choose positivity I bet your life will be better. Our attitudes as Mothers control the tone of our entire home, the saying of “happy wife, happy life” is actually pretty spot on – if Mumma ain’t happy, no one is happy. I love being a Mumma with all my heart, I find great joy in mothering – want to know why? 
I am grateful for this opportunity, I’m blessed and I’m thankful everyday for my daughter. I know what it’s like to try and pray for a long time for a baby & to lose a baby you’ve longed for & love – so when I had my daughter I vowed to try my best everyday, for her. God entrusted her into my care and I treasure her everyday. 
I’ve dealt with heartbreak, pain, anger & depression – but we have the power to change how we feel in our lives – I did, so I know it is possible. I have friends who have been in similar situations, friends that have lost their babies, friends who have gone through IVF and friends that possibly may never have children – which is so heartbreakingly unfair because I know those women would be amazing mothers, who would mother with all their hearts. These women, in these situations also refuse to sit around and complain how hard their lives are – they just get up and get on with life – they are inspiring to me.
When we were trying for our daughter nothing would make me more furious than reading a post from a Mum on how hard and bad her life was and see her name calling her child… Like I would almost see red, here was someone who had what I was praying for and all they could do was complain & be mean. I always keep that in the back of my mind & perhaps that’s why it has never been a desire of mine to complain how hard I have it, my day maybe bad, it maybe a challenging week or a difficult stage – but there is a woman out there praying and longing for my bad day & tough time. I was once that woman. So I know pain, I know hard times and I know how it feels to feel so low and dark. But when I was in those places I refused to sit around & complain how hard done by I was – because yes life sucked – but we have one life. And you don’t get the days back where you sit around in self pity. I make a choice every single damn day to enjoy my life and be positive. I don’t automatically wake up as “Sally Sunshine” – this takes work, determination and heart & some days it is a lot harder than others and some days I fail at it. But I try. I’ve been thrown some hard curveballs since I’ve had my daughter so don’t think for a second I’ve had it “so easy” – every mother/parent/family has struggles, every mum has a hard time. But I refuse to let the hard times define my everyday or negatively affect my mothering style & ability. Sure I have days that aren’t perfect, everyone does and some do have it a lot harder than others – but everyone in their own way has struggles. Everyone has moments that challenge them – but do I chose to dwell on them & think my life is so hard? No, because I know what that sort of harm that thought pattern can do. It destroys us.
Now I am not saying we should never ever speak of the hard times or be honest about struggling with the challenges – that is not what I said or am saying… It is important to be real, to speak about things that are hard, to talk about heart breaking topics – but what is not ok is to ridicule and humiliate our families or just have a negative opinion constantly.
I know from personal experience that it is much more socially acceptable to applaud a woman who is calling her kids & husbands awful names & complains constantly about Mothering & being a wife, but when someone comes out and says that it isn’t that hard & that she loves her role of being a Mother & wife she is ridiculed. Where is the support & camaraderie for the Mothers who love what they do, who find joy in being a wife and Mumma?
Our families deserve respect, mothers need to realise the life they are living is a product of their own choices & it is our job to ensure our kids have good childhoods. 
I said it in the last post, children are products of their environments. If you name call your child, complain & be negative – that’s what your child will be like.
And if we want to get in a full debate about this, how about we turn the tables… Would we as a society be as accepting if a husband was to write negatively about his life, wife & kids? Like name call, complain and say how hard his life is? Would we put him on a pedestal or would be horrified that he came out swearing and cursing his loved ones and complaining about life? I urge you to think about that… Because I know the answer and you are lying to yourself if you say he wouldn’t feel the wrath of the online community, especially the “mummy community”.
Bottom line is – it is never ok to name call your kids – I actually saw a quote the other day that said “sometimes it is ok to call your toddler an asshole” – like what? People actually think that behaviour is ok & we just accept that, because the Mum is having a bad day? I will give the parents who find this acceptable one piece of advice; if your kid is an “asshole” their is only one person who made him that way and you are the person with the power to change that.
My last post wasn’t written to tear mothers down – it was written in the hope of being a wake up to call to mothers who are seemingly throwing away a beautiful season of their lives. It may have been on the side of brutal honesty – but I felt it needed to be said. I’ve been sent a large number of positive emails, messages & also received comments from other Mums who feel the same – so I know I am not alone in feeling this way.
My aim here is to encourage Mummas to change their outlook on parenting – to embrace it, to find the joy in Mothering and share it.
So if you are posting about Motherhood on social media I would love for you to tag me in it 
so I can encourage you. 
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Or hashtag #motheringwithheartandjoy – I’ll be stalking that hashtag & liking and commenting! 🙂 And I hope you do the same, lets encourage each other!
I encourage you to share your joy or share your struggles – but do so with heart. We don’t need to humiliate our children or husbands to share our stories of bad days… It is ok and totally normal to have days that challenge us, every season of life is like that – but Motherhood can be extra challenging – we are raising a tiny little human! But seek the joy in each day, even if it is a small joy – find that and share it. Be real, but be kind and aim to find the joy even in the rough times…
To the Mothers who are passionate about mothering, I encourage you to encourage others. Use this hashtag, share these posts, post about positivity and the real times & how much you enjoy your life and be proud of it. 
A recurring trend I noted in many messages I have received since my last blog post was that some women no longer post the positive – because they feel no one wants to see it, no one cares and everyone just wants to read the negative – well to those Mothers, I want to read it – post the positive and be proud! #motheringwithheartandjoy
I know that at times it’s hard to post about how much we love Mothering because people don’t want to read how great you are doing & if you post the happy times you are called a liar or fake – social media users seem to only want negativity but Mothering needs to get a better reputation. We need to show the beauty because the bad is so commonly promoted. We need to do this for the Mothers who want to find the positives, for the expectant first time Mums that only see the negativity, for the Mothers who love what they do but feel they can’t say it and for ourselves.
Also I urge you to be mindful of the sort of the accounts you follow on social media. Negative voices can impact our lives. You may not notice it but who we associate with and listen to influence our thoughts and lives. Surround yourself with joy & positivity and you will feel it – it’s contagious.
It is a beautiful thing to enjoy Mothering and being wife, it isn’t a life choice that constantly needs to be torn apart negatively. 
Embrace this season of your life.
Be joyful & Mother with all your heart – I encourage you to – you will never regret it. 
#motheringwithheartandjoy

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