On Sunday I turn the big 3-0…
And ya know what, I’m looking forward to it, for the last few years my best friend and I have been saying how the 30’s are going to be our prime – our 20’s were years that we both struggled with different things personally but as we near our 30’s we are gaining confidence, wisdom and strength.
I feel like I am entering the 3rd decade of my life with a newly found sense of empowerment.
I truly feel more confident in who I am and what I believe in.
I am very ok with the fact one day I love being dressed up in a pretty dress and the next day I am enjoying a pair or ripped jeans, and that’s just the trivial side of it.
I am feel strong in my faith, despite the naysayers. I don’t feel insecure about my parenting abilities and I am strong enough to set boundaries in areas of my life.
When I was in my early 20’s I felt I was still on that path of self discovery, working out who I truly was and what I stood for. By the time my thirties are rolling around, I kind of feel like I have a good sense of self and I am proud of who I am.
There are chapters of my life that I cringe about, the outfits, the anger, the poor choices – but it all adds up to me. If it wasn’t for all of that, I wouldn’t be where I am right now and know what I know.
Before I hit the thirty milestone I’ve personally been working on a little list of personal accomplishments that I’ve recently done that I am proud of & bits of wisdom I wish to share – because sometimes we need to brag about ourselves…
So here are 30 things I have achieved/done that make me feel ready & proud to tackle my 30’s…
- Get married. Doing life with Trent is amazing & I love him with all my heart.
- Have my 2 babies. Add in 2 little ratbags and my heart is full, these 3 give me purpose.
- Go camping. This was a step out of my comfort zone to discover something I really enjoy.
- Set personal boundaries & be ok with not tolerating toxic people. This was hard and I am still working on it, but I am getting better at it!
- Learn to put my health first. I need to be well, to enjoy life & care for my family.
- Be open about having IBD. This is apart of me and I needed to accept that and by being open about it, that’s helped me greatly.
- Get my scopes done… What a milestone, getting a colonoscopy before the age of 30 – but it’s vital for my health and we were able to work out the full extent of my disease.
- Start treatment for my disease. A scary time, but I need to be well.
- Take care of my mental/emotional health. There is nothing wrong with not being ok and working out ways that work for you to deal with that. I have my own coping mechanisms that I find work best for me.
- Give myself grace & make time for me. I am not a perfect person, no one is. And I cannot pour from an empty cup. I need to look after me.
- Start & maintain a night time skin care regime & wear sunscreen everyday! Because I maybe 30 & love it, but I don’t want to look 40 while I’m 30!
- Move into our house. This was a huge thing, I wanted to have our keys by my birthday and we got them & each week our home is coming more & more together, it makes me so happy!!
- Let go of anger & hurt. This is another tough one, but I’m proud of how far I’ve come with this.
- Forgive. As above. But also, holding onto anger is pointless – it only hurts us.
- Realise & accept some people aren’t forever people, no matter who they are & some people are better loved at a distance. Another one that is a tough pill to swallow, but the sooner I learnt and accepted this the easier life became. (Even if I do have moments that it still all hurts & I struggle with it)
- Accept life doesn’t play out how we imagine it will, it’s all apart of His greater plan and that’s what I hold my trust in. Amen!
- Let go of other people’s opinions. What they think of me, is none of my business!
- Know my own style. I can accept I am not super fashionable, but I have a certain look and I know what suits me… Even if 88% of the time it’s jeans and a shirt. And I have a go to fool proof make up & hair look that I am confident in.
- That to create a positive life you need positivity. Negative self talk & negative voices create a negative space – fill your mind and heart with positivity and watch it grow.
- Seek the joy. It’s my mantra, seek the joy EVERY SINGLE DAMN DAY – look for it. Write it down, capture it – whatever works for you, but train your mind to find the joy, even on the dark days – scratch & dig for that tiny little sparkle of joy.
- Learn how to make some go-to delicious meals. Done, I feel pretty confident in my cooking ability – especially THIS chocolate cake!
- Accept I don’t know it all and still strive to learn. This especially applies to my faith, I truly enjoy learning more & more about that.
- Try yoga. I really enjoyed yoga & it’s something I want to try and make time for more often – even if it’s just doing it at home.
- Realise family maybe family by blood, but often family is people who we chose and who choose us. This can be sad but wonderful all at once.
- Let go of romantic & idealistic views of everything. For me this was family relationships, the sooner I accepted that I can’t change people & they won’t behave how I wished they would – the better. It’s still hard & still something I am working on. But this applies to so many areas of life. Having zero expectations means less disappointment.
- Know that your past doesn’t define you or anybody else. The person I was 10 or 12 years ago I wouldn’t even know now, but she is apart of who I am and I had to be her to be who I now am. And I cannot hold someone else’s past against them.
- Make up my own mind on things & people without the input of others & be confident knowing I can make the right decision, for myself & my family. This was a life changing moment for me.
- Be confident in what you do & what you feel your purpose is. Being a stay at home Mum is something that can be hard to be proud of in today’s world. Especially when in conversations people ask what you do and when you give them that answer they follow it up with “yes, but what’s your actual job?”… I love what I do, I’m proud of it and I feel it is my purpose in life.
- Know that all through life there are seasons, and each season brings new highs & lows. I find this particularly comforting when applying it to parenthood, I refuse to wish away seasons of my children growing up because I know one day I will wish for them back again.
- Be proud & happy with who I truly am, even if other people aren’t. I know who I am and I’m proud of the person I am today.
So there it is, my 30 little tidbits of wisdom and rambling thoughts. I hope you took something away from it…
I am looking forward to the weekend, I get to celebrate with a small group of people who I am so thankful for.