I know it’s been a little while between blog posts!
Life got busy! It’s always busy, but it got a even more chaotic. We are in the midst of some pretty big life decisions & sometimes something has to give, so it is sadly normally my little blog.
I always try to post regularly on my social media though, so make sure you check out those accounts! (Listed below)
But lets talk busyness – being a Mum is just naturally busy, some days I feel like I don’t sit down at all or get a moment of silence until after bedtime. Trent works big shifts, so I am on my own, from wake up to bedtime. But that is our life we chose & normally it’s great & works for us.
But add into the mix even more chaos & stress & well, it just all gets a bit darn overwhelming.
So this brings me to my point, what Mum’s really want for Mother’s Day, no not want – NEED!
Silence & to be alone.
That sounds awful – but hear me out.
Having a minute (moment, 1 hour, 5 hours – whole day – whatever!) alone (once off, once a month or even regularly) can be life changing for Mums (well, anyone really, Dads too!)
It gives us the ability to decompress, to breath – to calm our minds & hearts.
You can read, watch a movie, go shopping, just sit in silence & think, take a long bath, go exercise, journal, clean – whatever!
Everyone has different ways they like to be alone – you have to find what works for you – but it is crucial. Everyone needs this, especially Mums!
Mums never stop, we are always doing something & our minds are constantly full of 1 million thoughts & we are usually multitasking countless things.
Think of a Mum (or yourself) like a computer with 50 tabs open at once, all trying to download something – your computer is going to crash. Well, Mums crash & burn too if we don’t slow down.
So if you want to give a Mum in your life something meaningful and special for Mother’s Day this year, put down the dressing gown & slippers, step away from the foot spa & forget about the new vacuum. Tell this women who would put her own needs above her kids/family every single time that she has the day off.
Then pack the kids up & leave her alone.
(Well, you don’t have to desert her on Mother’s Day unless of course she thinks this is a brilliant idea – but just make a time & make her relax!)
I say this because the other night I was tired, stressed & I’m just mentally exhausted – my husband told me I was to take a bath, he poured me a wine, bought me in a lit candle & then took the kids out to pick up take out for dinner.
He saw I was burning out, he knows when I’m teetering on the edge of crashing & he jumped in and saved me. And I thank him for that.
But not everyone has a husband, or one that can read the signs – so tell them! Tell them you are tired, explain this – or if you are a husband/partner, offer your wife time out and if you are just a Mum with a best Mum friend – offer to do a trade. Watch your bestie’s kids for the day & then she can watch your’s next time – so you both get a break at some point! Or if you are a Mum/in-law of a Mumma with young kids – jump in! You know how hard this gig is!
Offer it just as a once off or make it a regular thing, doing so can change a Mum & her life.
And remember it doesn’t have to be some grand scale of time out/relaxation, it can be as simple as letting Mumma go out for lunch on her own, or eat breakfast in silence or doing the groceries alone. (My grocery shopping time is usually my “kid free time”)
Please never feel guilty for admitting you need a minute or help, in order to care for others we must first care for ourselves. You can be a better Mother when you learn to take care of yourself, you are also a priority. Your mental, emotional & general health is just as important as your family’s – don’t put yourself at the bottom of the pile. We Mums hold it all together, we need to stay strong so we can!
To my Mumma friends, I hope you get a time out this Mother’s Day, even if it is just an hour to flip through a magazine & sip some tea (*wine) – I hope you get a chance just to unwind.
Take care & remember motherhood is a life changing role, we are shaping the next generation & for us to do our best job we have to be our best selves.
Let me know how you like to relax below or on my social media!
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